So last week someone told me that i’m a terrible person for speaking up my mind and cutting off people when they are negative. This made me think a bit why i don’t feel guilty and thanks to that, now we have this post.
You’re not responsible for others’ mess, after you try to help someone and they still take bad decisions, that’s not on you. So, cutting someone off when they’re being a source of toxicity is self-care. You’re your first priority, you and your mental health, not taking care of someone else’s mess to the point of destroying yourself and your sanity in the process.
Taking breaks is not always the best option. Sometimes self-care means to start working on that project you kept postponing or finishing that book you have to read for class. Media nowadays promotes taking breaks and that might work, but sometimes starting to do your chores is also self-care. You do now a project so later you don’t have to do 3 more to get the points you lost in this one.
Don’t buy those sweets you so much want and put money aside to buy that great (thing you really want). Sometimes self-care is not giving in your temptations and wants from now so you get something greater in the future.
Time means nothing when someone belittles you. Speaking up for yourself is self-care, even if you have to deal with someone who has been in your life for years. Setting boundaries is self-care, in real life and on the internet. Respect yourself to know when to say stop because if you don’t know when, how should others know? They’ll keep pushing the limits.
Facing your problems is self-care. That therapy you kept avoiding? That hospital checking you kept postponing in the last 5 years? That dentist appointment you meant to make 5 months ago but you’re too scared to go to? You got problems now, but these problems will be even bigger if you keep avoiding them.
In conclusion, no, i don’t feel sorry for cutting people off when they become a source of negativity. My priority is me, my mental health, my body etc., not making sure the sources of negativity and toxicity are comfortable in my life to the point where it costs me my sanity.
Sometimes, self-care is doing what makes you uncomfortable.
every time someone talks about how “capitalism breeds innovation”, i think about the fact that capitalism killed the streaming service in less than ten years
like…the entire point of netflix when it started was that you could log into one service and you could find thousands of different tv shows and movies in one place, for one price, AND you didn’t have to wait for several weeks to watch the conclusion of a tv show AND you didn’t have to worry about your favorite new show getting cancelled half-way through a season for lack of viewership.
and then every single other channel out there thought “hm. why are we using a third party site to do what WE could do ourselves?” except not a single one of them had enough material in their libraries to do what netflix was doing. but they still pulled all their content out of netflix anyway and tried to do what netflix was doing. and then disney decided to do it as well, which… essentially just killed netflix.
but not only did they kill netflix, they just restarted cable! the whole point of a streaming service was being able to watch one show in one go, over a weekend or something. but bc these services don’t have enough material to keep people invested on paying every month, they have… to…. release shows one episode at a time, so that by the time one show ends they can roll out a new one and keep the subscriptions. which just? defeats the point?
and now we’re all just. back to torrenting one episode at a time, because nobody is paying for “cable…but on the internet”. all because capitalism breeds innovation
Kyrsten Sinema, the first openly bisexual Senator in U.S. history, has been sworn into office.
By anti-queer Mike Pence.
While placing her hand on a law book instead of a bible.
This is a fuck coworkers (and also kind of old, I thought about putting it in just now)
I went into work on December 23rd thinking all was well and good. Keep in mind, our office has five people including me, we’re a very small office. We had a small Christmas party, giving gifts and eating food and having fun. We ended up taking a picture together, and this is where things went wrong.
One of my coworkers, let’s call her Denise, was at that party. Even though her husband had come home with Covid, and she had been exposed, she went to that party. Now the whole office has covid.
As of today (March 1st when writing this) another one of our coworkers, let’s call her Jenny, is finally healthy enough to come back to work. Covid hit her like a train. She’s in her 70s, and we were all scared of what could happen because of how she handled the disease. She ended up with blood clots in her lungs and other kinds of scary shit like that.
Anyway, the point of this story is, DON’T COME INTO WORK IF YOU’VE BEEN EXPOSED TO COVID UNTIL YOU KNOW YOU DON’T HAVE IT!!! ALL FIVE OF US ENDED UP WITH COVID BECAUSE YOU JUST HAD TO BE AT OUR CHRISTMAS PARTY!!!
I like how he’s trying to imply such behavior is atrocious and pin it on the little girl instead of wondering just how much of a messed up experience this cute little girl must’ve had with a cop to ignite such a hostile response
